A Day for the Lady!!!

International Women’s Day stands for the equality of women in a male dominated society. This day is about the empowerment of women, the moment to stand up as an equal, if not the stronger sex in the society. As far as I am concerned, women are far stronger than men will ever be. They do not require any special notification from the society to remind them that they are strong and powerful. I would rather say this day is like a notification to remind the men of the society that they are not all powerful as they assume themselves to be. They are in fact no one and would be no where without the women in their lives. This is not something I am saying, science, facts and great wise men say so.

A woman is not equal to a man. She is much more than him in every possible way. God bestowed her with the power to create new life, for crying out loud. Without women, in the world, how will human race survive?  If she can nurture a new life for ten months and then undergo the most unbearable pain to bring a new life to this world, she can pretty much take on anything and anyone.

A woman is a mother, daughter, sister, teacher, boss, friend, girlfriend, wife and so many other things. The saying aptly goes, “Behind every successful man, there is a woman”. She can make you or break you. Her love is the pillar of your success and happiness. If you piss her, well, you are at your own peril! She is a great listener, in spite of the popular trend of being called a chatterbox.  She has the patience to understand you more than yourself. She has the strength to support you and stand by your side through thick and thin. She is kind and caring. She is strict and disciplined. She also knows how to rock a party hard. She is the face of love and the definition of passion. She knows the power of silence and significance of just being there. She has the endurance to bear the big headed egos of the so called self made self proclaimed great men.

 So we do not need the special treatment the society thinks they are giving a lady. We just need to be left on our own.  If we are so special, then why are the rape cases increasing by the day? Why female education is still a big concern in some parts of moronic orthodox India? Why does India have the highest numbers of human (female) trafficking? Why do we still have dowry system predominant in spite of being decreed illegal by the law? Why is working under a lady such a big thing to mention in office? Why is the rate of female foeticide increasing? Why don’t we need the girl child? Racism is gone in India, but sexism is still creeping through every wall. So the special celebration of women hood for one particular day is just a facade for the society to show off their care for the so called weaker sex. Put posters and discounts for Women’s day, send some pictures and quotes about the greatness of women and we are done. But we are missing the real cause behind this. Behind all the glittery jitters, there lies the horrible face of the truth in cases like Nirbhaya and the thousands of cases registered for the rights and safety of women. The naked truth is more disgusting than we can even imagine.

Big talks, aren't they? Ok, lets go lighter. Forget about fighting for human rights and such big stuff. Let us keep it short and simple. How many times have you failed to respect a woman in your life? It can be anyone, a friend, a relative, a colleague, a family member. Innumerable times! We forget to respect our mothers at times, forget about other women. A woman desires respect first and foremost. Learn to respect the women in your life first. The problems of the society will reduce automatically. Stand up against eve teasing, promote girl education. One step at a time. Today if eve teasing is stopped, rape and cases of acid throwing will be prevented soon enough. And with proper education, sky is the only limit for her. Time and again, she has proved herself to this society. Kiran Bedi, Kalpana Chawla, Shakuntala Devi, P. T. Usha, Mary Kom and many more have shown the greatness of being a woman.  Yet society stays blind. Yet we have to fight for our rights.

 It is said that she represents the word “beautiful”. She is grace. Her smile brightens up the day for all around her. Her smile is her strength. She draws strength from her troubles and rises above the dark gloriously. Now, tell me, would you like to be a part of the society where this smile does not exist, is not allowed to flourish? Would you like to be a part of the society where this beauty is oppressed and mistreated? If not, stop passing comments about the much needed change. Be the change! Stand up for what you believe. You do not have to go on air for this; you can simply begin by changing your own ways, if it is needed and standing up for the ladies in your life. Just give her the one thing she wants most, a little respect and a little love. She will bestow your with happiness and love in return. Show her that you care in simple ways. You will never have to worry about yourself again.

 And for the ladies, I would say use your rights properly. Just because you have the advantage of certain specific laws or privilege of the saying “ladies first”, does not mean you have to misuse them. Be honest and truthful, to yourself at least. Before killing your daughter in your womb, think that you too are a daughter and would not have been even born if your mother would have taken this decision. Be careful. Trust your intuitions. You are often right.

Other than that, smile, a lot! Your smile enlightens the day for many. You are the strength and lucky charm for your family. You make the world a better place.

All I want to say is, girls, we totally rock the world!!!Stay the way you are. Simple and beautiful. And, oh yes, Happy Women’s Day!! JJ